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                     | Kids Online: Protecting Your Children in Cyberspace Chapter 4
 SHEDDING LIGHT ON THE
 DARKNESS OF PORNOGRAPHY
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          | "Donna's book is a powerful tool for parents who want to keep 
            kids safe. Kids are so vulnerable when they're alone online. We need 
            to know about the lurking dangers so we can protect them. " Leeza Gibbons
  
              What are the myths surrounding pornography? How does pornography harm children?
 What are the connections between
 pornography and sexual addiction?
 What are the warning signs of sexual disturbance in children?
 
 Shedding Light On the Darkness of Pornography
 
  
              Depending on the explicitness of the material, children can 
                be harmed when they are confronted with sexually graphic speech 
                and/or photos. Most adults recognize that exposing children to 
                pornography is harmful. It gives them their first messages about 
                sex without adult supervision or moral guidance. 
                
              Public indifference to pornography is frequently rooted in ignorance 
                of the facts. In this chapter, you will find more research notes, 
                studies, and statistics than in other chapters. Additionally, 
                I want to bring to light credible evidence that will dispel the 
                myths of pornography, particularly the myth that pornography is 
                a victimless crime. 
                
 The Myths of Pornography 
             
              Myth #1-Obscenity Is a Matter of Opinion 
              Myth #2-Obscenity Is Protected by the First Amendment 
              Myth #3-Pornography Is Harmless Entertainment 
              Myth #4-Pornography Reduces Dangerous Impulses 
              Myth #5-If Legalized, Pornography Will Be Less in Demand and 
                Sex Crimes Will Decrease 
              Myth #6-You Can't Legislate Morality 
              Myth #7-Viewing Pornography Is a Choice-Don't Buy It 
              Myth #8-It's Not the Sex in Pornography That's the Problem; 
                It's the Violence 
              
                  
              How Pornography Harms Children 
             
              Exposure to Pornography Threatens to Make Children Victims of 
                Sexual Violence 
                
                  Pornography's Relationship to Rape and Sexual Violence 
                  Pornography's Relationship to Child Molestation 
                  Exposure to pornography frequently leads to behavior resulting 
                    in sexual illness, unplanned pregnancies and sexual addiction. 
                Exposure to Pornography Promotes Desensitization 
              Exposure to Pornography May Incite Children to Act Out Sexually 
                against Other Children 
              Exposure to Pornography Shapes Attitudes and Values 
              Exposure to Pornography Interferes with a Child's Development 
                and Identity 
              
              Pornography's Progressive Pattern 
                
              Dr. Victor Cline, a clinical psychologist at the University 
                of Utah and a specialist in the area of sexual addictions, has 
                observed a four-step syndrome common to almost all of his clients 
                who have been involved with pornography. 
                
                
              The Symptoms of Sexual Disturbance among Children 
             
              Sexual Preoccupation 
              Age-Inappropriate Sexualized Behavior 
              Age-Inappropriate Partners 
              Coercion 
              Paraphilias 
              
              Helping Children Deal with Trauma Inflicted by Pornography 
                
              The best way to reduce the suffering of a child traumatized 
                by pornography on the Internet (or by any other medium) is to 
                prevent pornography from entering the child's life. In chapters 
                5, 6, and 7, we will look at some prevention tactics and technological 
                solutions. 
                
              This section of the books includes a recommended strategy if 
                you think your child has been abused, traumatized, or sexually 
                exploited while on the Internet. The following is a short version 
                of this strategy: 
                
              This is a dark chapter because pornography in cyberspace casts 
                a dangerous shadow on our children. Most of us find it difficult 
                to talk to our children about sex in general, let alone the harmful 
                effects of pornography, as described in this chapter. We want 
                to protect the innocence and purity of childhood for as long as 
                possible. Yet children need to know why certain rules about the 
                computer and their access to the Internet exist. They may be less 
                likely to violate the rules if they are told the truth about why 
                they are not allowed to see everything on the Internet. In the 
                next chapter we will look at how we can begin to educate our children 
                about protecting themselves from dangers in cyberspace.
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